One of the easiest things — or perhaps hardest — about cyber bullies is that oftentimes they are anonymous. That’s good right? Or maybe it’s bad, depending upon your perspective. How do you deal with these unknown, faceless trolls who harass and bully? Here are a few tips for dealing with anonymous cyber bullies.
How to deal with anonymous cyber bullies
Report to the Admin
Make sure you know how to contact an Administrator for the website on which you are dealing with the bully. Don’t hesitate to report any bullying behavior, messages, or posts to an Admin. Usually it is better to let an Admin step in and deal with a bully rather than trying to deal with them yourself.
Remember You Don’t Owe the Bully Anything
When dealing with anonymous cyber bullies, don’t fret over getting the bully into trouble or causing them problems. You don’t owe them anything. Not a thing. In fact, they owe you an apology for their bullying tactics, but you’re unlikely to ever see that happen.
Don’t Feed the Trolls
The most important rule about Fight Club, is you don’t talk about Fight Club…wait, wrong situation there. The correct advice for this situation is don’t feed the trolls! Bullies thrive on attention and the more they get your goat, the more they’re going to want more goats. Or something like that. The gist is — don’t engage. When a cyber bully tries to get you to respond to their attacks, don’t take the bait. Let an Admin deal with them and just ignore their attempts to get you to give them ammunition and motivation to keep going.
Be Friends With the Block Button
One of the best things about Facebook is that you can hide or block someone. In the event of a cyber bullying situation, you should make that block button your best buddy. If someone is bothering you and using bully tactics, just block them and be done with it. Take away their power by removing their access.
Let It Go
Just like that popular “Frozen” movies admonishes, “Let it go, let it go…” Yep, it’s hard sometimes not to take a bully’s words to hard but that’s part of their power — that their words get to you. Hitting the block button is easy, sending a report to an Administrator isn’t all that hard, ignoring a troll is a little harder but it can be done. Letting go of the bullying incident and the things the bully said to you might be a little harder, but it’s the most important.
Whatever the bully said, don’t take it to heart. You don’t know them, and they don’t know you. They can’t give you an accurate or knowledgeable assessment on your character, your beliefs, your thoughts, or you as a person. Once the incident is over and the anonymous bully has been taken care of, blocked, or removed, forget about it.
Anonymous cyber bullies can be found on every site on the web. The trick is to know how to deal with them and then forget about them.
Do you have any tips for dealing with anonymous cyber bullies that we missed? Share them in the comments!