I finally know I am not alone in my struggle of how do you get it all done with a toddler around. One of our mommy readers reached out asking the age old question of how do you get housework done while your little people seem to be creating a mess right behind you. You long for nap time, but for what? Are you going to shower? Or go back around and pick up the mess you just picked up? Maybe you will nap yourself? Then your significant other comes home and boldly asks, ‘What have you been doing all day?’ Kind of makes you want to hook up cameras all around the house so you can record exactly how your days go doesn’t it? Here are my very amateur suggestions based on my experience. If nothing else, I hope you feel less alone in this.
How do you get it all done with a toddler around?
When you have a small child, everyone, and their cousins will tell you that you should get your housework done when the kids are asleep. Ok sure. My son naps anywhere between 20 minutes to 2 hours. When I lay his precious little head down, the only thing I am certain of is that if someone rings the doorbell and the dogs start barking, I am not going to be one happy momma (this has happened, more than once). So whether my precious little boy will allow me 20 min or 2 hours, sometimes I just need to breathe and sit in the quiet. Sometimes I get things done. And sometimes I forget my opportunity to shower. The truth is, sometimes I take a nap with my son, and sometimes I can’t wait for naptime so I can start cleaning. Nap time, no matter how short, may be the only break you get today!
Create a schedule
This might sound a bit crazy but trust me, I have done it, and it totally helps! It took me a while (like almost an entire year) to understand this concept, but it has saved me. Being a SAHM or working from home or whatever the case may be that allows you to be at home with your angel, can appear like you have all the time in the world to everything that needs to be done. I swear SAHM’s are in a time warp where we lose hours. So you don’t feel like you are doing everything every day, break it up. Monday, clean bathroom, Tuesday vacuum and mop, Wednesday laundry day, you get the idea, but create one that works for you. You have to think about how your day runs on its own at the moment. Things, like wiping down the counters and putting the dishes away still, need to be done daily, and you just have to do it.
Sometimes I just don’t
Sometimes I just don’t get any work done, despite every effort made to do so. My significant other would come home and wonder what I did all day. Not only did that make me feel like a poor housekeeper and partner, but it also made me feel as if he thought all I did all day was sit around and watch trashy tv, while my mini tornado ran through the house. On days like this, I like to pride myself that my toddler is still in one piece, fed and partially clothed (probably in something too small, picking my battles here). That is about the extent of the victory of the day. And for this day, that is ok.
I think as moms who stay home raising our children, we tend to put high expectations on our home, our parenting, and well, pretty much everything. Give yourself a break. You have 24 hours in a day and more jobs than anyone who punches a clock, without the luxury of a bathroom break.