Do you remember the expression “It take a village to raise a child”? Did you know it’s actually a proverb, whereby a child is more likely to flourish and become a healthy and well-balanced adult if the entire community is actually involved in how the child is raised? Doesn’t that sound wonderful?!?
My parents lived in a small village in Wales when my brother and I were very small. My mom describes it as an idyllic town, and a lovely place for young families – everybody knew each other, everyone had small kids, and everyone was willing to step in at a moment’s notice if you needed anyone to watch your kids. In fact, my mom and her neighbours rotated babysitting each other’s children so that they could have date nights with their hubbies. Do you know what I call that? Genius! Also, it’s pretty much the epitome of a sisterhood: a community of women linked in the raising of their children and their neighbor’s children. Moms, aunts, sisters and everything in between were there for one another, all raising their children as a community. How Awesome!
What happened to that sisterhood of motherhood?
Fast forward forty years and five thousand kilometers, and the Sisterhood of Motherhood seems to be a thing of the past, at least where I live. I live in a suburb of Montreal, and I am blessed to have my parents five minutes away from me. But many of my friends with children are nowhere close to their parents and family, geographically speaking. And with house prices being what they are, more and more moms with young families are spread out all over the suburban areas of Montreal, making it difficult to get together with our friends.
When we first moved to suburbia, I made it a point to say hello to whoever I saw when I was out for a walk pushing my son in his stroller – especially other moms. Most of my neighbors smiled in return, and said hello. But there were a handful who looked so surprised that anyone was speaking to them, that they didn’t respond. I realized that if I was looking for a community of like-minded moms to bond with, then I was going to have to do the leg work myself. I would have to push myself out of my comfort zone and create my own Sisterhood. Thank goodness I found my sisters, through a little social networking site called Facebook. Just search for Mom Groups in your area!!
To be in a sisterhood, we need women who will stand by us unconditionally; women with whom we have an unbreakable bond that cannot be shaken, and who share our values and goals. So who better to fit the bill than a group (gang?!?) of fabulous moms whose kids play with yours, and with whom you can drink copious amounts of coffee with; all while using each other as sounding boards for the crazy ride of motherhood? I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: seriously, get yourself a group of Mom Friends to help you navigate the parenthood waters. Let’s bring back the Sisterhood Of Motherhood together! Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m on my way to a Mom’s Night Out. I’m telling you: I LOVE these women!