How does bullying affect a person’s life both in the short term and long run? Sadly, in many disturbing ways. Read on to find out seven effects of bullying.
Do not think that bullying is just a childhood event that will eventually fade from the minds of healthy adults because it really isn’t. Having been the object of bullying in Middle and High school, the truth is that those bullied never forget. Forgiveness is a possibility, but forgetting is not something we do. Maybe that sounds a little cynical, but the truth is sometimes.
Growing up 30 some years ago, bullying has changed greatly. It’s no longer simply putting pencil shavings in someone’s hair or stealing their lunch money it’s much, much worse nowadays. If we were to list the ways that it can affect a person, it would take a long time, so we’ve narrowed it down to just a handful of possibilities. Remember, times are changing, and people differ so if you know someone negatively affected by bullying be sure to reach out and act if you can. It can change someone’s life.
Scary Ways Bulling Affects A Person’s Life
Believe it or not, yes, being bullied can lead to suicide–much too often as we hear in the news. Stories of teenagers committing suicide much too often because they’ve been bullied at school or online. Even adults partaking in the same act because they feel they’re useless or the world would be better off without them thanks to the many forms of bullying we see these days.
Sure, depression can lead to suicide or at least suicidal ideations, but it can also be an effect from years of bullying. Those that are depressed may not have any true thoughts of suicide, but depression from bullying is a real disease.
Withdrawing from everyone, your family, your friends, any and everything can also be caused from years of being bullied. Just as with the rest of these problems, it can run your life and ruin it as well. If you notice your kids withdrawing, step in as soon as possible and talk to them about it.
With kids of any age, being bullied can screw up their grades by making them feel less focused, distracted, or just plain scared to go to school. In some cases, the bullying becomes such an issue that teens feel they have no choice but to drop out to get away from it.
Unfortunately, we see this in the news far too often. According to StopBullying.gov, studies have said that 12 out of 15 school shootings that occurred in the 1990’s were by shooters that been bullied in their past. Of course, not every child who is bullied will go to those extremes, but bullying-related violence is definitely an issue in schools, whether it’s the bullying doling out the hits or a bullied kid who has just had enough.
Low Self Esteem
Bullying can often lead to low self-esteem well into a person’s adulthood. Sometimes an individual that has been bullied in the past may see themselves as ugly, fat, stupid, and more. When you’re repeatedly told that you are these things and more, being ashamed of who you are can be an easy way to hide from the rest of the world.
Loss of Trust
When you tell someone you’ve been or are being bullied and they don’t believe you, it can lead to a loss of trust not just to that person but any other person you come in contact with as well. This will often happen with a family member that you tell about your being bullied. They may think you’re making up stories just to get out of going to school or dances or even community events.
These are just some of the ways a person can be affected by bullying, there are so many that we can’t list them all here. Thankfully, in our day and age, there are tons of resources to help those individuals that are being bullied and many are anonymous for those that do not want to be known as ‘snitches’.
The one thing to keep in mind is that when and if you are ever bullied or know someone that is or has been bullied, is to make sure you let someone else know what is happening. There are tip lines and other anonymous ways that you can report that bullying that has or is occurring. Keep a lookout for any situation that could turn into a potential bullying episode, then let someone know immediately, there are numerous resources available at your fingertips. Please use them.
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