As an adult who suffered from bullying during my formative years, it is easy for me to say that it can indeed effect your life continually, but the question remains, What are the effects of bullying on your adult years? Every victim of bullying will have a different answer, but the result is the same. The effects of bullying are long lasting and do not disappear in your adult years simply because you are now a “grown up”.
What Are The Effects Of Bullying On Your Adult Years?
Studies show that the effects of bullying can linger permanently. While individuals who have good relationships with their parents and a strong support at home will be less effected by the bullies in their lives, those who are not surrounded by support will see the effects of bullying well into their adulthood. Distrust, poor social skills, inability to maintain good relationships, are just a few of the problems formerly bullied children face as adults. If bullying isn’t a real issue in society, then why do we have so many adults who suffer from what has been deemed post traumatic stress disorder as a result of childhood bullying?
The most common effects of bullying that linger in adults are:
- Low Self Esteem
- Unexplained Anger
- Poor Social Skills
- Inability to Trust
- Anxiety Issues
- Higher Rate of Suicide Attempts
- Fewer Quality Relationships
- Higher Divorce Rates
The effects of bullying are far reaching. Even though a bully may no longer be present in a child’s life, it does not mean the damage has not been done permanently. With children being so impressionable in the formative years, what is said by their peers can often impact them for life. When faced with daily derogatory comments, a child may soon begin to believe what is said. It is difficult to gauge how much one instance or a dozen instances is going to effect a child in the long term.
We have even fewer statistics on the effects of bullying in children who are in the LGBT community. Since this is a hot topic that is controversial for any age, let alone a child, it is assumed that an LGBT child who is bullied by their peers will suffer lasting effects from bullying that could lead to suicide, violence or depression that would be debilitating to their daily life.
Bullying is real. It isn’t something that developing a thick skin as a child will prevent you from being hurt by. This is not a simple matter of teasing. There are true long lasting effects of bullying in adults everywhere today. From the woman who doesn’t feel her body is good enough and distrusts the compliments she receives, to the young man who was smarter than the rest of the class and teased for being a geek that is now unable to develop a traditional social life – bullying is real and the damage done may be permanent.
What are your thoughts on the effects of bullying on adults? Did you deal with bullying as a child?