Do bullies have low self-esteem, is that why they treat others poorly? Bullying is intentionally making someone feel bad. Bullying comes in many different forms from physical to cyber, all with the purpose of making them feel bad. Bullies get some satisfaction out of seeing someone else hurt physically or emotionally. Or maybe they just don’t know how to treat people correctly? Keep reading, it may surprise you.
Bullies: Do They Have Low Self-Esteem?
Is it low self-esteem?
This answer surprised me; I always thought that all bullies have low self-esteem, and that is why they act the way they do. It is just the opposite. Surprisingly, they feel pretty good about themselves. They think highly of themselves, and thus the reason for their poor behavior. Bullies think they are superior to everyone else. The reality is, according to the Center for Disease Control, bullies are more likely to experience violence at home.
Is it a need for attention?
More often than not, a child is missing out on positive attention from his or her parent and is lashing out to get the attention he needs and wants. It doesn’t matter if it is good or bad attention; attention is attention.
Is it learned behavior?
Kids are like giant sponges; they soak up what is around them and then act the same way. If a child is being bullied at home (angry parents, parents who constantly put their child down) that child is going to treat others the same way. Our parents are supposed to teach us the right way to act right? Well, if the parents are acting the right way, then the kids aren’t going to either.
Is it self-defence?
Sometimes kids bully to prevent themselves from being bullied. It is a defense mechanism in a way. They think if I am the bully, then I can’t be bullied.
Just trying to be cool?
Being a kid is tough! I know when I was a kid, other kids thought it was cool to be mean to others. I was not one of those kids, it never made me feel right to be mean, I felt bad for those who were being bullied. Some kids want to be part of the popular crowd and think the way to get there is to be mean to and make fun of other kids. Sometimes there may not be any other underlying factor for a bully to bully other than he just wants to fit in.
Whatever the reason is for a child to bully others, it is a behavior that can be changed. Kid’s behaviors are not set in stone, all it takes is a caring adult to help them see how their actions are hurting others. Deep down, they are probably hurting too. Let’s try to get to the root of the problem instead of simply punishing the bad behavior.