As a young working woman, the idea of truly free time is laughable. It often seems as though every minute of every day is spent either improving your career or taking care of the family because these things have become the new priority in your life.
The problem is that without at least a short amount of time to relax every day, the stress of this type of lifestyle can get overwhelming. Without time to yourself, you may not be able to cope with the day’s anxiety, and while that may be manageable right now, the resulting stress of that anxiety can easily add up over time. That’s why it’s so important to have some method of relaxing every day, even if it’s for a short while, to maintain your mental health and sanity.
Creating a Relaxation Room
One method that can be very effective is to create a room dedicated to becoming stress-free. If you have any free room in your home or apartment, you can turn this room into a “Stress-Free Room” – a room that you go to specifically to relax after a long day.
All you need is 15 minutes to an hour every day to spend in this room. If you build the room correctly using features that are legitimately relaxing, you’ll find that the room itself can be a great way to unwind after a long day.
What Makes a Stress Free Room?
Stress-free rooms need to have features that are designed to relax your mind, your thoughts, and your body. Anything that can cause you even a minute amount of stress or excitement or energy should not be in this room. Rooms should have the following qualities:
- No Technology – While you may use your cell phone, television, or computer to relax, the light and activity also wake up your mind. This may relax your thoughts, but it doesn’t relax your brain or your body, and so the rooms must be completely technology free. No TV, computer, landline, cell phone, or even digital clock. At best, you can add a relaxation noise machine if you find the sounds of the ocean relaxing.
- No Clutter/Photos – You should also make sure the room is completely free of anything that could be a mental distraction. This means that not only should the room be as clean as possible, with empty walls and little furniture – it should also be free of anything that focuses your mind on a specific topic. That means that you shouldn’t even have photos of your children or family, because when you look at these photos you’ll be more likely to think about them rather than be free to let your mind wander and relax.
- Lock and Soundproofing – As best you can in a way that’s still safe for your family, you also need to try to be as cut off from the rest of the house as possible. If you can sound proof to hear less noise from outside, you should. You should also have a lock so no one can barge in on you, and shades for the windows if there’s too much activity outside.
Also, you should strongly consider comfortable furniture and soft lighting and colors. This room also needs to be 100% dedicated to your relaxation. The mind associates places with stress, so if you ever work in your room or have angry conversations in your stress-free room, the room will no longer be able to act as a stress-free sanctuary. If, and only if, you can dedicate this room to nothing but relaxation, you’ll find it has the calming effect you need for your stress and anxiety.
As a young mother, it’s easy to feel like you have too many responsibilities to focus on your mental health. But the truth is that your mental health and happiness are important – not just for living a quality life, but also for raising a healthy family. If you allow yourself to be overcome with stress, your family will pick up on it and be stressed as well. These stress-free rooms can be a tremendous help, and is something you may want to consider strongly if you have the means to do so.
About the Author: Ryan Rivera spends at least 30 minutes a day in his stress-free room no matter how busy he is. He writes about anxiety and panic disorder tips