Once upon a time, becoming a mom in your 40’s was practically unheard of. Well, maybe not unheard of, but it came with all sorts of dire warnings and odd glances from family and friends. Now, though, as more women are spending their early adulthood on careers, travel and other endeavors, it’s becoming more commonplace. More women are waiting until their 40s to start having children and studies show that the old ‘use by’ date on our uterus is mostly a misnomer.
Becoming a Mom in Your 40’s
Many mothers in their 40s feel that their years of experience contribute to a more balanced, relaxed style of parenting that provides increased security and well-being for the child. With a wealth of understanding of life at hand, these mothers exude the kind of secure competence and non-clingy love that makes for relaxed, engaged children.
Having the opportunity to have gone out into the world and lived their lives without restriction gives middle-aged moms the inner peace they need to be able to devote their whole attention to their families. Without that, even subconscious, resentment, these moms can provide holistic nurturing for their kids that is free of mixed messages.
The biggest caution about having kids in one’s 40s is that, unlike for younger mothers, your own parents are much less likely to be in an active, engaged position for the all-encompassing early years of your child’s life. Anyone is apt to feel overwhelmed without people to lean on, be it for advice or babysitting; fortysomething mothers should make sure that they have a vibrant support network in place so that they aren’t suddenly left at sea without advice or a break.
Don’t let people tell you that you can’t have a child when you are in your 40’s. There are many women who choose to wait until later on in life to have a child. They want to be sure they are settled down, have a decent job and a good financial future.