Giving birth is a busy time. Going back to school is also insanely busy. Giving birth when your older child is going back to school is a double crazy time! Between getting everything ready for your new arrival and making sure your previous arrival has all the right tools for a successful school year, it’s easy to find yourself completely overwhelmed and frazzled! We have a few tips to make it a little easier to prepare for back to school and baby!
Tips For Giving Birth While Your Older Child is Heading Back to School
- Plan ahead. Premature birth aside, most women have a general idea of when they’re going to be giving birth. You also have a general idea of when your child will be heading back to school. Don’t wait until the week before both events to start getting ready! Start back to school shopping earlier than usual. While you may not have an exact school supply list, you do know the basics that your child will need!
- Explain the situation to your older child. To you, back to school may not seem like such a big deal if it’s the third, fourth or fifth time! To your child, though, every year is a completely different experience and brings about its own round of new back to school nerves. Don’t just assume your older child will go with the flow without some sort of explanation about what is going to happen. Let her know that you want to be there for her first day, but that nature pretty much decides when the new baby is going to arrive, so that may not be possible.
- Enlist help. Don’t try to do everything on your own. Ask your spouse, partner, family member or friend to help you out with the preparations for both events. If you’re on your own, consider hiring a trusted babysitter to give you a little extra help. Even a local responsible teenager can lend a hand while you supervise.
- Spend a little extra alone time with your older children. Even though your older child is likely excited about a new baby sibling, he may be feeling a little hurt that you aren’t as focused on his big day as you have been in the past. If your older child is starting kindergarten, it can really pull you in two directions! Take some extra “alone” time with your older child and talk about the upcoming school year before giving birth.
- Involve your older child in choices. If your older child feels more involved in choices relating to both back to school and the arrival of a new sibling, he may not feel as slighted. For back to school, let him pick out his backpack and notebooks. For the arrival of the baby, let him pick out something special, such as the outfit that baby comes home in! If you’re worried, he’ll pick something truly horrific, lay out a few possible choices.
- Give the school a head’s up. The birth of a new baby changes the dynamics of the household in a major way. That can trickle over into your older child’s school work and emotions. Make sure the school knows that you are giving birth right around the same time school starts and that it may take a little time for things at home to settle down.
The good news is, plenty of women give birth around back to school time. With a little extra patience and planning, it doesn’t have to be a time of major stress. Do you have any tips to stay organized and sane during back to school?