Telling Your Parents That You’re 16 and Pregnant
Chances are, you’ve already told your best friend that you’re pregnant, so use her to help you decide how to tell your parents. Try out different ways of starting the conversation, and take notes if you have to. Once you have your basic script memorized, you’ll feel a little more confident when talking to your parents about it.
If you need to, take your friend with you to talk to your parents. Yes, this is a very private conversation, and there is a good chance that your parents are going to ask her to leave before the conversation goes beyond, “Mom, dad, I’m 16 and pregnant,” but if having her (or him) present gives you the courage you need to start the conversation, then it can only help.
Don’t drop a bombshell on your parents in the middle of a family dinner, or worse, during an argument with your parents. Wait until things are relatively quiet and peaceful, and then tell them you need to talk to them about something important.
It is the rare set of parents that does a happy dance when they find out that their daughter is 16 and pregnant, so you already know to expect them to be at least a little upset by the whole thing. Just keep in mind that the first reaction to this news is not necessarily an indicator of how they really feel, so give them a little time to adjust after you deliver the news.
If you really feel like your parents are going to react in a way that could be harmful to you or you just don’t feel like you can do it on your own, talk to a qualified counselor or medical professional and ask her to be present when you talk to them. Just because you’re 16 and pregnant doesn’t mean you should have to deal with a potentially abusive situation.