Your child is finally speaking to where you can hold a conversation (some days you might long for the good ole days of your non-speaking child). One of our mom readers wrote to us concerned that her 4 year old talks in third person. Even when she is playing she always talking in the third person. Should she be concerned? How should she handle this without outright correcting her and getting her frustrated? Here are some of my suggestions.
My Child Talks In Third Person: Is This Normal?
Kids mimic: Oh don’t I know this! They always seem to know just how to use the bad words. That is another discussion. How do you ask your child if she is hungry? Do you say “Is Jean hungry?” or do you say “Are you hungry?” If the first option sounds like you, she is mimicking how you speak to her. Start asking her if she is hungry without her name and see if she starts mimicking you.
Correct her without correcting her: So she says “Jean is hungry!” and you respond with “Ok! Did you say ‘you are hungry?’” You can repeat what she says without using her name so she can hear how she should be saying it. You are not saying things like “No say it like this…” or “That is not how you ask for things”. You are passively correcting her.
Let it go: Now you are singing the song, you are welcome! Kids grow out of things most of the time. He is still learning what is right and wrong when speaking. A lot kids speak in third person because when you think about it, we do it ourselves when we speak to them. It is normal if your child talks in the third person, there are bigger things to stress about, like her college fund!
Language is confusing: Think about, because you don’t remember when you were learning to speak yourself, but there are so many things to learn when speaking! My daughter used to confuse ‘him’ and ‘her’ and ‘he’ and ‘she’ (sometimes she still does and she is about to be 6, but she catches herself). Your child only just started talking not too long ago (in the big scheme of things) there is a lot to learn!
Do you talk in third person? Think about it for a second, how do you speak to your child? Don’t fool yourself, you know you have referred to yourself as ‘mommy’ to your child before! I do it and don’t even realize it. With my 4 month old I say “Give mommy kisses!” I know I still do that on occasion with my almost 6 year old, and I know my mom does, she refers to herself as grandma all the time. So where do you think your child is picking up this habit? Hmmmmm…
In my not-so-professional mom of 2 opinion, I wouldn’t worry about it if your child talks in the third person. More than likely your child will grow out of this habit. If she doesn’t and you are concerned, you can always discuss this with her pediatrician.
Have you experienced this before, whether it be your child or maybe one you were teaching? Share your opinions and stories with us below.