Is it normal for my child to talk to herself? This was a question one of our mommy readers posed to us. A very valid question and one that I am sure others have as well. I never really thought about it much when my daughter talked to herself. She doesn’t do it so much now that she is getting older. So, is it normal? Is it something you should worry about when your child talks to herself (or himself)?
Is it Normal for My Child to Talk to Herself (or Himself!)?
Bright children talk to themselves
Studies have shown that bright children talk to themselves more often. Do not spin this to mean me saying that if your child does not talk to herself that she is not bright, that is not what I mean. Private speech (talking to oneself) is done to assist the child is accomplishing some developmental task. If your child is trying coloring and trying to stay in the lines, she might talk to herself, not necessarily about staying inside the lines, but maybe about what colors she is using. School actually hinders this ability, as most teachers want children to be quiet when doing things.
Just speaking her mind
When kids talk to themselves, often times they are just verbalizing what they are thinking. Kind of in the same way you and I talk to ourselves. She is making sense of her environment and surroundings. She is working on developing her language skills as well. Kids have very active imaginations, talking to themselves proves this! It is a sign of a healthy, active imagination and a curious child.
Don’t you do it?
I don’t know about you, but I talk to myself all the time. I mean, I get the best answers that way, right? When I think about it, I do when I need to feel the most organized. If I am packing for a trip, or trying to organize a busy day and making sure I have everything I need, I tend to talk to myself. It is perfectly normal for your child to talk to himself too!
We do it in private
As we grow, we learn that talking to ourselves in public is just not something people do (typically). So we learn to just talk to ourselves in the privacy of our own home. Kids just say whatever they want whenever they want. Has your child ever asked a really embarrassing question, at what seems to be the loudest octave possible in the quietest of settings? We ask these questions to ourselves, in our heads, kids have yet to figure out this filter.
Typically the older they get, the less they talk to themselves. Around age 7 or 8 is when most self-talk will diminish, and they will do what we do as adults, have those conversations in our heads. When kids are young and discover they can talk and form words, it’s fun for them! I am sure they like to hear their voice, and they are just practicing without even realizing it.