Learning how to balance family time and your time as a SAHM is probably one of the hardest things about being a parent. Since becoming a mom, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought about being able to have more time to myself. It’s so hard to come by, but as a mom, it’s so important to make sure you’re taking the time to care for yourself. A little time alone rejuvenates your mind and body, helping you feel more relaxed and rested. That, in turn, gives you more patience and energy to keep up with your kids. Here are some of my tips for finding that balance between your time and family time.
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How to Balance Family Time and You Time as a SAHM
Carve out some time for yourself every single day
Sounds impossible, but it is doable. As much as we want our kids to be happy, it’s key to remember that we deserve to be happy too. What everyday things make you happy? Personally, I love to read, so I try to take a few minutes every day to lose myself in a book. Once or twice a week, I won’t watch TV after my little guy is in bed and I read instead. It’s simple, and more importantly, it’s sustainable.
Re-evaluate and Prioritize
If there are things in your life that eat up your time for no real reason, maybe you need to re-evaluate. When my son was a newborn, I felt like I was too busy to do anything at all. Yes, those years are exhausting, but my son also napped for long stretches several times a day. Instead of doing things that I actually enjoyed, I found myself wasting hours of time on social media, or surfing the internet mindlessly. It took me a few months to realize that I could have been using my time in much better ways, and even using some of it for myself. Now when I have a bit of spare time, I try to use it wisely… although I’d be lying if I said I didn’t just zone out on the couch and watch reality TV!
Schedule you time
Honestly, I always thought it didn’t really sound like all that much fun to have to pencil “Me” time into the calendar, but it’s a must as a busy mom. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, I ask my mom to babysit my son. I do take care of things around the house while I’m alone, but I always make sure that I have some time just to sit and read, watch a bit of TV, or call a friend. I also look at spending time alone with my husband as “Me” time, because I really need to be able to unwind and be alone with him away from the house. We try to get out and have a date once in a while, which helps us reconnect.
It does seem like an oxymoron, but taking time away from your family is incredibly important for all of you. As moms, we have to remember that our own physical, emotional and spiritual needs are just as important as everyone else’s in the family. When we take the time to prioritize and nurture ourselves, we become happier moms and partners.