Today we are going to look at a common question in bullying – Girls versus boys: do they bully differently? As parents evaluate the issues their children are having with bullies, understanding the differences between how boys and girls act and react can be a great help toward prevention and after care. The question is one that is definitely valid and worth asking, but it is also easy to see that there would be vast differences in how each sex would deal with bullying. While not always the case, boys and girls do bully in different manners.
Girls versus boys: do they bully differently?
Girls: When you think about female bullies, you typically will find their actions not being physically violent, but definitely verbally and mentally abusive. Girls tend to focus more on beating down emotions rather than the physical body. This can in many ways become an even more difficult problem to overcome than if the child had been hit or beaten.
- Tend to use verbal assault instead of physical violence
- Focus their words and actions on very personal attacks to their victim
- Will tend to bully in groups attacking one individual at a time
- Practice exclusivity as a form of bullying
- Focuses more on physical flaws as a reason to bully
Boys: The classic beat down in the school yard from years past is still the most common form of bullying with boys. Boys are much more prone to violent acts versus verbal assaults. Being able to show their superior physical strength gives them the high they are looking for.
- Resort to physical assault and threats rather than verbal abuses
- Pick on those who are weak physically or emotionally and appear helpless
- Will target individuals that are outsiders, different in appearance or obviously weak physically or mentally
There are vast differences between girls and boys when it comes to bullying. While we wish that bullying did not exist at all, we must be realistic and appreciate what is true. Bullying has become more and more prominent. It has also become more violent, personalized and the lasting effects of bullying have become harder to overcome. If you wish to understand bullying and how to stop it, then you must understand that boys and girls will bully differently. Not only will they choose different targets, they will choose different forms of bullying. From verbal assaults and internet shaming to the common physical violence the term always brings to mind, bullying is a real issue with our children we continue to need to address.
What are your experiences with girls versus boys when it comes to bullying? Tell us in the comments.