When your toddler asks, “Where do babies come from?” what do you say? Kids never cease to amaze me with their questions! Luckily I had 2 c-sections so my answer to this question is easy (albeit probably gory). We had one of our mommy readers write us with this very question. Her toddler thinks babies come from her belly, and she is not entirely wrong! She also thinks they come out her belly button (Kid seems smart!) Her concern is this:
“On principle I want to correct her, but clearly this opens a new can of worms and nobody needs a two-year-old shouting “baby came out mummy’s vagina!!!” every time she sees her brother.”
Well of course not! Kids say enough embarrassing things in public. We don’t need to add fuel to the fire! So what do you do when your toddlers ask “where do babies come from?”
What do you say when your toddler asks “where do babies come from?”
Go with the flow: A toddler doesn’t need to know the ins and outs of where she came from, heck she is probably just learning where she pees from, don’t go confusing her! If your child thinks her baby brother is going to be born from your belly button, why not go with it?
Make up a story: What is wrong with a good ole fantasy about where babies come from? Many parents these days want to be honest with their kids, which, well yes, no one likes a liar but let’s be real here. Are you going to have a sex talk with your toddler? No. Make an up a cute story, your little one is not going to be in the delivery room, so it is not like she will actually see this happening. You could say something like ‘When mommy goes to the hospital, it means the baby is ready to be born.’ No doubt about it, there is going to be follow up questions. Fortunately, toddlers are easily swayed to other topics! Your child could have a billion and one questions as to why the sky is blue, don’t let the ‘where do babies come from’ question trip you up.
Ask what she thinks: Kids are smarter (and more creative!) than we give them credit for. If your child asks you where she came from, or where her baby brother is going to be coming from, ask what she thinks! And then go with that. What is the harm really?
Tell a modified version of the truth: You could tell the truth, but in a modified way. Talk about how babies grow from eggs that mommies carry inside. Or go with a story about how they’re created out of love between moms and dads. It’s up to you how much you want to tell, but it’s possible to be honest about it without giving “the talk” to your two-year-old.
In my very professional opinion (hope you picked up on my sarcasm here) you don’t actually have to ‘tell’ your younger kids where they came from. There is no certain age where you sit down with your child and explain the ins and outs of how they got here (before the obvious age of course that being puberty). If you want to be technical, there are some things in life your child just will not be able to process based on her developmental age. She just won’t be able to comprehend that her baby brother came out of where you pee from. What she does know is that mommy has a baby in her belly. She went to the hospital (or to the birthing room or where ever else you choose to deliver your baby) and now the baby is here. I would go with that angle. Of course, what you decide to do is totally up to you. There really is no right or wrong answer here!
How have you handled this question before? Please share with us your answers in the comment section below!