It seems that many parents these days are choosing to co-sleep with their kids. There are about as many different reasons for co-sleeping as there are parents! I had so many people telling me that my daughter needed to be in her own bed. None of these people understood the reason she wasn’t in her own room. Transitioning your child to their own bed and room can either be easy or difficult. Either, way it will happen eventually.
I didn’t always bed-share with my daughter. There is a difference, bed-sharing is sharing a bed, and co-sleeping is sharing a room. My circumstances were a bit different and it was my only option at the time. I took a job working third shift and my husband didn’t get home until after I was already in bed before work, so I had to take my daughter to bed with me. When you are trying to get your child to sleep in their own bed, there can be lots of back and forth and there was no way that I was going to be able to manage that and also get my own sleep before working all night. It was just easier to have her with me.
When Should You Stop Co-sleeping With Your Toddler?
We moved to a smaller place where the bedrooms were all on one level. At that time, I decided it was time for her to move to her own room, she was 5 years old, it was past time (in my opinion). I started by having her sleep there on my nights off, where I had the time to handle the inevitable back and forth and have her stay in her room. Eventually she slept in her bed every night. She would ask if she could sleep in my bed still, but the answer was no.
Sometimes, children don’t like to be alone and sometimes they are attached to their parent. For me (thankfully) she just didn’t like to be alone, because when her sister was there, she had no problem sleeping in her room. The decision to transition from co-sleeping to their own room is a decision only you as parents can make. There is no right or wrong and it can be a controversial subject (much like how long you breastfeed).
Think about the reasons you are co-sleeping. Is it because it is easier at bedtime? Does co-sleeping make you and your child more comfortable? I feel like as a society we are always pushing independence on our children a lot faster than other societies. Sleeping in a room by yourself can be scary! If you are ready to transition, stick to your guns, but also make it fun and comfortable for your child. A special bedtime routine will help.
Did you co-sleep (or bed-share?) What made you make the decision to have them finally sleep in their own room? Share your stories with us below!